I Know the Benefits, But...

One of many decisions you will make as you await your baby is how to feed him or her. Most women are aware that breastfeeding is best for both mom and baby and like many health care providers, midwives strongly recommend breastfeeding. We know, however, that most women also have a number of concerns and even fears about breastfeeding. Your midwife or other care provider will ask you about your feeding plans during your prenatal visits. Communicate what you’ve heard about breastfeeding! Ask questions! Find out where you can go for help.

These are some of the things we often hear women say:

“I just don’t think I can breastfeed. My breasts are too small. I won’t make enough milk.”
Many women lack the confidence to even attempt breastfeeding for fear of failure. But, what they may not understand is that nine months of anxiety cannot undo what nature has equipped humans to do since the dawn of time.

“I don’t eat well enough to breastfeed. I want to go back to taking birth control pills.”
Lots of breastfeeding mothers wonder if they need to make changes in their diet and medications.

“I’d like to breastfeed but I have to go back to work/school in 6 weeks.”
Many mothers shy away from breastfeeding because they are planning to go back to school or work, or simply want to know that they can go out without the baby if they need or want to.

“I think I’d be too embarrassed to breastfeed.”
The fear of embarrassment doesn't have to keep you and your baby lurking in the shadows of public restrooms. You can breastfeed discreetly in public if you wear the right clothes. Getting the baby latched on properly can be awkward in the early weeks, while you are both still learning, but you'll soon find yourself able to easily and smoothly get your baby to the breast. As with most things, discreet breastfeeding becomes easier with practice.

“I have a low pain tolerance and I just couldn’t take it if it hurt.”
One of the first things a woman might say when asked what she has heard about breastfeeding is, “I’m afraid it’s going to hurt!” Breastfeeding is not supposed to hurt. But, breastfeeding has hurt some women. Luckily, we know a lot more now than we used to.

“My mother/husband/boyfriend/sister doesn’t think it’s a good idea.”
Breastfeeding is more than a way to feed a baby, it becomes a lifestyle. While no one but the baby's mother can provide breast milk, it is helpful for the mother and the baby if the father, family, or significant others encourage this healthy relationship.

"No matter what, I'm not going to breastfeed."
It is not the intention of the ACNM to criticize the use of breast milk substitutes.

These concerns are all very common yet all can be overcome. You can successfully breastfeed your baby and you both will reap the benefits. Breastfeeding really is best for you and your baby; and your midwife, supported by the American College of Nurse-Midwives, is available to help you learn.